May 2, 2008...10:21 pm
The Concept of Marriage is Flawed
Why? Because I can’t decide for my entire life at a particular moment in time. Not now. Not ever.
People change. I know I do. Were you the same person you were 10 years ago? Last year? Last month? Yesterday? If not, then how would you decide your entire future basing on all the information you have now? Shouldn’t you be entitled to review all the information in the future too?
Cynical? maybe. But the numbers are against me, if I was to jump into the deep end without knowing what’s in the water. According to Statistics Canada, the Total divorce rate, by the 30th wedding anniversary in 2003 is 38%. But does that mean the other 62% is dancing, singing and having hot steamy sex with their spouses every night? Me no think so. In that case, let’s be conservative and say that 15% of the couples are still running constantly in the dread and resentment of their hamster wheel. That leaves us with… 47% of the couple who are having successful marriage.
So if I were to get married now, I would have a less than 50% shot at happiness. Appealing(no, not really). But I’ll pass, I am not much of a gambler. If I am committing my life to something, the chance of payoff better be greater than 99.9%. I understand that there are people who are happily married and kudos to them! But I also know that’s extremely rare.
So why should I get married? What’s in it for me to get married? I can have all the benefits of a marriage without actually getting married. The security marriage provides is an illusion. The illusion of possessing someone and that someone is now committed to you by law is exactly that; an illusion. Thinking someone is now obligated to do certain things for you is bullshit because we can’t control another person, no matter how much we fool ourselves into believing.
In the end I want the person I love to be as free as she can, I want her to be 100% of who she is AND more because I want the same for myself as well. There’s no such thing as a “Soulmate” because we are ever changing therefore I can’t promise that I’ll never change, so if 10 years into the marriage and I am no longer the person who she said “yes!” to where is she going to get her refund? *Return Policy: FINAL SALE. NO RETURNS.*
I’ll have a wedding with whoever I am deeply in love with at that moment. I just won’t sign shit.
Kevin
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